A near-death experience can change your life forever. You know this. It's a part of our culture. The mind goes straight to the woman who's pulled just in time from a burning car wreck, or to the man whose life is saved by a heroic medical team. They told his family he might not wake up from the operation... but there he is, sitting up in bed and asking for a sandwich.

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But there's another kind of near-death experience, and this other kind is much more likely to happen to you. The death of a partner, a child, a parent, a best friend... they can all be life-changing too, and so can the death of anyone else you were close to.

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That's what happened to me. It happened very suddenly, and it was only afterwards that I realised there was no road map.

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How was I supposed to feel?

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How was I meant to talk about it?

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What was I supposed to do next?

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These were the first among many, many questions. In the end, I found my own answers. But I've decided I would have liked a bit more help with the process, and this book is my attempt to give that to others.

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The book is finished. I'm currently looking for representation for Grief is not Forever.